Saturday, 12 October 2013

30 Days of Kink: Day 24

What qualities do you look for in a partner?

 For the purposes of this post I'm taking 'qualities' to mean personality traits and not physical characteristics. Physically I look for slightly different things depending on the gender of the person, internally though I look for similar things;

  • Trustworthiness: I want to be able to trust my partner and not be let down.
  • Honesty: I want my partner to be completely honest with me and I with them.
  • Understanding: I want a partner who is understanding of me.
  • Strength: I want a strong partner who can stand up to me and put me in my place with just a look
And they are the key things for me. I'm sure there's plenty of others I could think of but I want to get this post up in the near future!

Wednesday, 25 September 2013


I have some massive insecurities with being naked. I'm not the biggest fan of my body but the idea of being forced to be naked, to strip, in front of anyone, be it a group or an individual, strikes fear into me but also makes me wet.
I don't spend much time nude when I'm alone, in fact in the shower and when masturbating are probably the only times I'm naked, unless I'm on cam for someone or I'm over heating!

When it comes to be naked on the interwebs I'm pretty confused; I love the idea of people I've never even met seeing me naked, wanking over me even, but I'm terrified by the thought that someone I do know will find out my secret!

When it comes to others though I'm a bit confused by nudity; I love naked women, I quite like naked men, but I tend to prefer seeing people clothed, I find the way people dress more arousing; the way the material clings to them, or the colours and shapes they create with their clothes. I also find that in my fantasies I'm often nude while everyone around me is clothed, something that turns me on rather a lot.

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Sunday, 22 September 2013


Apologies for the rather long absence. I've still been doing naughty things, in a fashion, I just wasn't feeling the vibe for putting it out there.

Anyway, I felt like I'd better check in and, being as I haven't been snap happy so couldn't take part in Sinful Sunday I thought I'd check out KOTW, and this week we're talking Blow Jobs, or a myriad of other phrases, most of which I've never heard of!

Personally I'm not a big fan of the blow job, I went through a phase in my teenage years where I was obsessed with them but, much like when you eat Marmite all the time you soon become sick of it, I went off them and now I only really enjoy them when I'm in the right mood.

Of course the problem with that is that Doms want you to always be in that mood in case they fancy a blow job. Which is fair enough, and I'd love to be that girl, and I really beat myself up a lot for not being that girl, but I'm not, and I need to be ok with that.

Another problem I have when it comes to sucking cock is that I once put my jaw out doing just that, and it hasn't sat right since. If I try to open my mouth wide it clicks or cracks, sometimes it locks, it's no longer made for spontaneous blow jobs. There's something decidedly unsexual (is that a word?!) about trying to open your mouth and then having to try and manipulate your jaw to get it wide enough! Don't get me wrong, it's not a problem that happens every time, but it happens a lot, enough to make it very annoying.

There are things I love about giving blow jobs though; the sounds that are made by the receiver and the look of bliss on their face, the feeling of submission that flows through me, and knowing that I'm being a good girl while also being a naughty girl! That's fun!

So overall I guess I'm not really one way or the other when it comes to blow jobs, or sucking someone off, or inhaling the oyster...

Wednesday, 3 April 2013

Wicked Wednesday: Discussion

Let's discuss discussion, shall we?

Discussion is super important in relationships, any relationships, but especially in kinky relationships. The discussion of limits is possibly the most important discussion you will have with your play partner. If I'm honest, I find discussing limits hard, I don't want to let people down and ruling out certain types of play sometimes feels that way, but it has to be done. Another reason I find it hard is because I'm always a bit worried that I'll miss something! Either something I love will get forgotten or I wont have thought of everything that is a hard limit of mine.
To make things a bit easier for me I'm in the process of making a list that I can refer to when the question comes up. As I think of, or find out about, new types of play they either get put on my hard or soft limits, or it gets left off the list and is acceptable.
Many people advise that your limits list should be inclusive rather than exclusive (I hope I got that the right way around), meaning you list things that you will do and not things you wont, because it's safer that way. I'm not sure either way is better, though I can absolutely see the sense in it being an inclusive list, that way you know what you're getting in to, but my list is exclusive and being built in the hopes I can exclude everything that isn't for me, and it's also helping me learn about new kinks.

I seem to have got sidetracked somewhat by my list, so let's get back to the discussion. It can be awkward, but it needs to be done and done well, so put on your grown up panties and get on with it. Take a deep breath, get out your list (mental or otherwise) and state your kinks, loud and proud. And remember that discussion goes both ways, so listen to the other person's list too. Take notes if you need to, ask questions, make sure you take it all in. As I said before, this is a super important discussion, and you owe it to all involved to make sure it's successful.
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Tuesday, 2 April 2013

Kink of the Week: Wax Play

Kink of the WeekThis week's kink is wax play, and this isn't something I've had the, erm, pleasure of trying! At least not yet. So I can only talk about how it looks and whether I want to try it.
It's certainly something I'd like to try, even though the idea scares me quite a lot! I have a bit of a fear of hot play after getting burned by a lighter at the hands of a 'Dom' with no experience or learning on the topic at all. We were both young and naive. But even so, I'd like to give it a whirl and find out what the feeling is like. I think if I were blindfolded and with someone I truly trusted then it could be great fun to experience the feelings and emotions that go with it.
I find images of wax play quite scary to look at to be honest, in fact fear is probably the main emotion that goes alongside it for me, but that fear does turn me on.
So, it's another short post again for KOTW, but they're my feelings on wax play!

Monday, 1 April 2013

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30 Days of Kink: Day 16

What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?

 For me it is the lack of understanding and therefore having to watch what I say in public for fear of judgement. This is what has led me to a semi-anonymous blog, so that I can express myself, find myself properly, without that fear. Or at least with a lessened fear.
I find, especially with Daddy/girl play, that there is a massive lack of understanding. People can often understand a bit of "slap 'n' tickle" and to an extent D/s is becoming mainstream now with 50 Shades and the like appearing in bedrooms around the country, but Daddy/girl is not seen in the same light. Even in the kinky community it's looked on as a bit odd a lot of the time, at least that's what I've found.
So that's the hardest thing for me, the judgement that comes along with being a little, even with being a submissive and the fact that it sends me into hiding. I hate that.

Friday, 29 March 2013

Kink Of The Week: Spanking

Spanking is one of my favourite things, it's right up there with bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens. I adore it. I adore the feel of a bare hand against my naked ass, stroking it before swatting it hard, causing my ass to ripple slightly. Oh how I love it.

There's something magical for me about being bent over someone's knee and spanked too. A good OTK spanking is really gives me tingles just to think about it! Now if you combine it with some Daddy/girl play then that would be me, done and over the edge, bam! Perfection!

I find there is a lot of bonding to be done during spanking too. The flesh on flesh contact is wonderful and the act itself somehow allows me to feel very safe, very loved and cherished.

That's pretty much all I have to say on the matter, but if you want to have your say click the "kink of the week" picture to find out why I'm talking about spanking this week!

Sunday, 17 March 2013

Sinful Sunday: Not anymore

For Wicked Wednesday I wrote about 'hair down there' and you came to my air and offered a myriad of suggestions. I got up my courage, swallowed my pride and spoke to my Sir and I present you with the last photo of said hair as it is now all gone! I am unspeakably happy!

Sinful Sunday

Tuesday, 5 March 2013

Hair Down There

This week's Wicked Wednesday prompt is "?+?=?" and "me+hair=:(" here's why;

So, Sir had me grow, and now has me maintaining, a landing strip. I thought I'd get used to it, maybe even grow fond of it, but I haven't. Every time I shower I want to shave it off, I want it to be gone, to be quite honest, it disgusts me.

I've shaved my lady parts since hair appeared so it's not something I'm used to seeing, I'm not a fan of any kind of bush on females in general so to see it on me is something of an issue. (If anyone is interested I love hairy men so go figure).

I've kept waiting for the moment where I look down and think "oh it's not so bad," and it hasn't come and I know that if we broke up it would be gone seconds later. But I want to please him, to make him happy, and he likes it so I have to deal with it.

I've tried looking at porn with hairy ladies in it to desensitise myself to it, so to speak, but so far no luck.

Anyone got any suggestions? How to learn to love something you hate?
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Wednesday, 27 February 2013

Wicked Wednesday: Writhe

The plane journey has been long. Oh so long. I sit in my seat, not really knowing what is to come, what to expect when I step off that plane. Without a bra and without panties I have traveled from my home to his, nervous, scared, flying into the unknown.

I writhe. In anticipation. In expectation.

I collect my bags and leave, seeing him, seeing her, finally, my cunt twitches. I approach slowly, worried I am not what they expected. Not hot enough, not sexy enough, not anything enough. But they smile at me, Sir grins, nodding to the bathrooms. I flush but the wetness between my legs gives me away. He knows, they both know. I take my bags into the bathroom and he follows me.

I pick a stall and wait. So nervous, heart pounding, but writhing. He enters, I know it is him, and my door swings open almost of its own accord, knowing how much I want this. He shuts the door behind him and lifts my top up, no words pass his lips, not even a hello. He gropes me, feeling my tits, running his hands over my stomach, around my waist, back to my tits, squeezing my nipples while I bite my lip trying not to give us away.

I writhe. In fear. In pleasure.

He lifts my skirt, grinning to see I have obeyed his orders. His hands explore me and I blush, turning my head away, unable to look at him. A hand wraps around my chin and turns my face towards him.

I writhe. In shame.

His fingers explore me, he turns me round, examining every inch of me. He bends me over, spreading my ass cheeks. I feel fingers begin to explore inside of me, violating what has been just mine for so long.

I writhe.

I hear the sound of a zipper and swiftly he takes me. I cannot help but scream and soon find a hand over my mouth as he pounds into me. Stretching me. Using me. Abusing me. I feel his cock pulse inside me, and he is done with me. He pulls out, zips up and leaves. I collapse on toilet.

And I writhe.

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Sunday, 17 February 2013

Sinful Sunday: Self Love

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” 

― Gautama Buddha

It might not sound valentiney but for me the most important love is self love.

Sinful Sunday

Friday, 15 February 2013

30 Days of Kink: Day 25

How open are you about your kinks?

This may seem odd given that I blog sort-of-anonymously but I'm actually pretty open. I don't go round yelling it from the rooftops but my friends know I'm kinky and if you ask about it I'll tell you. I tweet some kinky things from my non-kink account on occasion, and not just by accident!

So all in all I'm pretty open about them, but I'd rather my family didn't see me naked!